Sunday, November 26, 2006

Not telling C & C

Dave & I have decided NOT to tell Carter & Cole the severity of the brain tumor. They know it is cancer & that cancer is very bad. That is all they need to know at this time. (As Cole would say "Cancer belongs in the trash can.") I agree with him on that one.

We are at peace. We know I am not a statistic. God is in control of all my days. I could die in a car accident before I die from cancer. All my days are numbered just like everyone else.

We are going to be in contact with MD Anderson, Houston, TX on Monday morning. We should know by the end of the week when we will be taking a flight down there. Pray for wisdom of the doctors. Pray also that all the details come into place - especially all the medical paperwork to be faxed to them quickly. Lots of phone calls to be made to various doctors, hospitals, etc.

As always, pressing on towards being refined - kate


Anonymous said...

Dave & Kate,
My mom sent me this link and I have been reading the updates daily. I have been thinking about what to say since day one but am not as well with words as some of the other "bloggers". I just wanted to let you know that we pray for you daily and your family never leaves our thoughts.
Jen, Matt and Owen Sullivan (or as Dave would probably know me Jen Owen - J.W. Terrill)

Anonymous said...

Dave and Kate,
You don't know me, but I attend E-free. My sister sent me your blog (blogs are new to me, although I am a writer, so I feel somewhat at home!)and I've been following it closely. I wanted to echo your sentiments that you mentioned. God taught me years ago that he doesn't deal in statistics. After 5 years of trying to have children, my husband and I felt God was leading us to undergo IVF (in-vitro). Faced with a $14,000 bill and no guarantees, we were told we had a 35% chance of getting pregnant, and 28% chance of a "take-home baby." Trusting Him that the outcome was up to Him, God blessed us with twins (a 7% chance). Not only that, but my OB told me that there was less than a 10% chance I could get pregnant on my own. On the twins' first birthday, I found out I was pregnant with our third child - God's plan completely. Over and over, He told me "I don't deal in statistics!" Praise Him!

Anonymous said...

I am so glad that we spoke with you outside today (you look great by the way!) and learned that you were still updating your blog. I apologize that we have not kept up with it for we thought that it had been deleted.
I am so saddened by these recent findings. As I sit here in tears reading your entries I had to remind myself that God does have a master plan and even though it may not make sense to us, it makes sense to Him. Kate, you are such an extraordinary individual (I know this & I haven't even been your neighbor that long!) and you have an extraordinary family. God will get you all through this. The power of positive thinking is amazing!
Please know that even though we are new to your lives we are definitely here for you and your family if you need anything. Please do not hesitate to ask. You are continuously in our prayers!
Dawn Kim

Anonymous said...

Dear Kate and Dave:
We continue to pray for you!! Your faith is a constant encouragement to all of us.
Psalm 112 has been a real blessing to me in the past few weeks. I hope it will bless you as well.(esp. verse 7 & 8)
God Bless-
Cindy B. and family
Psalm 112
1. 1[a] Praise the LORD. [b]
Blessed is the man who fears the LORD,
who finds great delight in his commands.
2 His children will be mighty in the land;
the generation of the upright will be blessed.
3 Wealth and riches are in his house,
and his righteousness endures forever.
4 Even in darkness light dawns for the upright,
for the gracious and compassionate and righteous man. [c]
5 Good will come to him who is generous and lends freely,
who conducts his affairs with justice.
6 Surely he will never be shaken;
a righteous man will be remembered forever.
7 He will have no fear of bad news;
his heart is steadfast, trusting in the LORD.
8 His heart is secure, he will have no fear;
in the end he will look in triumph on his foes.
9 He has scattered abroad his gifts to the poor,
his righteousness endures forever;
his horn [d] will be lifted high in honor.
10 The wicked man will see and be vexed,
he will gnash his teeth and waste away;
the longings of the wicked will come to nothing.

Gail said...

Kate and Dave you have been on my heart so much today, more than other days. Today while visting Josh and Nicole's church in Fort Collins, the pastor talked about sickness and healing using the scriptures in Acts about how the apostles healed one man and raised another from the dead. Our sickness and healing is all for His glory. We then sang "It is Well With My Soul" and I immediately thought of you what you are going through right now.
When peace like a river attendeth my soul, when sorrows like sea billows roll. Whatever my lot though has taught me to say, it is well, it is well with my soul. Those words and the rest of the song have always touched my heart since my battle with cancer began years ago. When you face cancer, you at least know what you are dealing with and you are so right about the chances of dying some other way, i.e. car crash, etc. God has appointed your days and you have the right attitude of knowing He is in control and I'm so happy you have His peace. It doesn't make it any easier and so many times I've just wanted to close my eyes and make it all go away, but it doesn't go away. You have been such a blessing to all of the people who love you and read your story so far. God is using you and this circumstance of your life right now to speak to others. Tanks for sharing your life and struggles with others so we can pray better for you and be blessed. I am praying for a miracle for you.

Anonymous said...

Kate - I think you and Dave are very wise in how you are handling Cole and Carter with the information. I had wanted to write last week that you should probably hold back telling them but felt it might be too "in your business." As you said, they know cancer is bad, but I think ALL the info would be more than their little hearts could process right now. And as you said, we don't ever know. God has worked in miraculous ways before. And God has numbered your days, not the doctors. Just like they can't give you the exact date you will deliver, they cannot tell you exactly how your body is going to respond and manage over the coming years. My grandmother told us on our wedding day that she had been given a year to live (she loved attention) because she had congestive heart failure. Well, she lived another 10 years. Don't mistake me, I well understand the seriousness of cancer - it has wiped out my mother's entire family. But as I have struggled to let go of my own fears about the threat of cancer in my life and trust the Lord I am continually reminded that each day is a gift. And also I can spend all my time worrying about something that may happen and either miss out on life or get hit by a bus! Although I must say frankly that if each day is a gift there are some I would like to return!:) Blessings - Amelia